I’m a big fan of win-win situations. I guess that desire flows into gift-giving too. Sure, I think that being selfless is admirable and all, but when it comes to romantic gifts for men or women, I think that the best gifts will make you feel closer and will help you both get in the mood for romance.
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Sooooo. With that said, I think that THE BEST gift you can give to your special lover is a DIY massage oil – even if it’s just a secondary gift. But not just any ole massage oil – it must have aphrodisiac properties, be able to relax or stimulate you, and also soothe your achy muscles.
Below, I’m going to share some essential oils with you and tell you what they can do, other than just “get you in the mood” for romance. And even though these essential oils stand on their own, I’ll also share 5 blend ideas at the end of the post.
And just to be clear, the gift we’re giving is the gift of massaging you. Wink 😉
Which Essential Oil(s) Should You Use?
There are a ton of essential oils that have beautiful, soothing scents. What I’m going for here though, are the ones that have an aphrodisiac effect while having the right effect on your mood and muscles. Here are 7 essential oils that are perfect for that!
Clary Sage: I love this essential oil. Its scent is neither masculine or feminine. It has a nutty, warm, and musky scent that is ever so slightly floral. Some even say it’s a little bit herb’y. It is extremely calming and also a gentle muscle relaxer. So, if you and/or your partner are stressed out and have achy muscles this is a great oil to use!
But if you’re both really tired and need to be stimulated this won’t be the one for you. It might make you fall asleep. Granted, if that’s your idea of the perfect romantic night, then go for it!
Ylang Ylang: I’ve been wearing this oil as a perfume since the late 90’s. It’s sexy and a little sweet, with a nice mix of floral and balsamic in the scent. Ylang Ylang can lift your spirits while at the same time relaxing you. So, if you or partner are feeling a bit down, this oil can lift your spirits and would be great for your romantic day.
Lavender: Need I say more – you either or love or hate this scent. If you hate it though, consider getting a really good quality essential oil – the difference will blow you away. The interesting thing about lavender is that it can balance your mood. So, if one if you is edgy or stressed and the other calm or even a bit sad, this oil can make both of you feel better and ready for romance!
Patchouli: Many of us have a bias towards to Patchouli – thanks to the overuse of patchouli incense (especially in the late 90’s). Seriously though, give it a chance in its essential oil form. It’s actually quite beautiful. It’s smoky, and earthy and a little bit floral. I bet you’ll actually decide you like it – A LOT! It’s also really great for calming and relaxing tight muscles. That makes it pretty great for a romantic massage that’s will soothe your senses and your muscles.
Neroli: This essential oil has a sweet and floral scent that is very feminine. Other than rose, I think it’s the most floral scent on this page. It’s extremely calming so if you’re life is stressful, this will be a great oil to relax you for your romantic day.
Like Clary Sage, it might not be the right one for you if you’re feeling especially tired though.
Sandalwood: This is probably one of the most masculine oils on this page. It’s not that it’s not feminine too, but it’s the most earthy and musky of them all. It’s really calming and excellent for meditation. If you want to make sure a guy will love your massage oil, use this on its own or in a blend.
Rose: Rose is extremely calming and contrary to what many believe it will actually stimulate your senses. It’s very floral, but like with Patchouli, you really need a good quality oil in order to appreciate the sweet, gentle scent! It’s a great oil to use if you want to feel beautiful and loved and make your partner feel safe and relaxed.
Which Carrier Oil(s) Should You Use?
If you want to make things really easy you can use an oil like Olive Oil, Coconut Oil or Grapeseed Oil. You can get these at almost any grocery store. Of those three, I’d definitely use Grapeseed oil though. It is by far the best texture for massage AND it doesn’t have a scent.
Other really fabulous options include Apricot Kernel Oil, Sweet Almond Oil, or Peach Kernel Oil. All of these (like the options above) are affordable. You’ll probably have to pick these up at the health food store with your essential oils though.
Simple, Romantic Massage Oil Blends for Your Special Fella or Lady!
To be clear – there’s no need to make up a fancy blend. Any of these oils are amazing on their own. Buuuuuut, if you really want to make something personalized and special and suited just to you, here are some ideas for you.
Blend Idea 1:
- 5 drops Sandalwood
- 3 drops Rose
This has a more masculine scent. But at the the floral of the Rose is a nice balance. Both men and women tend to really like this scent.
Blend Idea 2:
- 3 drops Ylang Ylang
- 5 drops Sweet Orange
This has a very gentle, kind scent. The Sweet Orange is a nice, sweet contrast to the floral of the Ylang Ylang.
Blend Idea 3:
- 5 drops Neroli
- 1 drop Lavender
This is a nice combination of florals. It’s gentle, with a little bit of punch! If you want you can also add a drop or two of Bergamot for a gentle citrus scent.
Blend Idea 4
- 1 drop Patchouli
- 3 drops Rose
- 1 drop Sandalwood
I love the smoky’ness of the patchouli with the gentle floral scent of rose. The Sandalwood gives it a slightly more musky scent.
Blend Idea 5
- 3 drops Clary Sage
- 1 drops Black Pepper
- 2 drops Ylang Ylang
Black Pepper isn’t a popular oil, but boy-oh-boy is it ever unusual (in a beautiful way!). It’s another great oil that’s neither too feminine or masculine.
If you decide you want the scent to be strong you can certainly add more essential oil. Start with one additional drop and don’t use more than 10 drops of any oil.
Note: These are all based on 4oz of carrier oil.
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